Happy Valentine's Day! This post is for all my single brethr..

Happy Valentine's Day! This post is for all my single brethren out there! Years ago, back when I was single for a very long time and in a slump, I was getting so depressed. I had been single for 4 years at that point, and I thought I would never find anybody. My luck was so bad, I even signed up for an international dating site to find love across the globe. (Side note: I have some pretty funny catfish stories from back then. I should compile those and retell my stories for my next vlog.) I got some advice from a married mom friend of mine. She told me to take a piece of paper and list every single characteristic I wanted to find in a partner. Then store it in your wallet and leave it there. She swore up and down that this worked for her! She found a husband with every single characteristic listed on her paper. I don't believe in such superstitions normally. But, I figured, if it didn't work, the worst that would happen is I would have an extra piece of paper in my wallet. Little backstory: My last relationship before was not very good. He was not caring, not thoughtful, not empathetic, not loving, unromantic, and constantly irritable. He would explode over small things. It was like always walking on eggshells around him. I never dated somebody who was so temperamental before. He was grouchy often and never smiled or laughed. I am normally a positive and funny person by nature, but his mood was contagious and really affected me negatively. Towards the last half of our relationship, I never laughed or smiled anymore. Even after we broke up, I didn't laugh or smile for years. I closed myself in my room and cut off all social contact with everybody. I didn't get my sense of humor back again until I met my husband almost 4 years later. I look back and wonder why I stayed with him for so long. I think the sunken cost fallacy is what did me in. I thought, "I've already wasted so much time with him, and I don't want it all to be for nothing." He was also much more pleasant at the beginning of our relationship, so when he gradually and slowly started changing over time, I didn't immediately recognize that he was changing for the worse. I also convinced myself at the time that our relationship really wasn't that bad, because we only argued once or twice a week. Love truly is blind! So I thought long and hard about all the characteristics I didn't want, and I knew I wanted somebody who was the polar opposite of my last partner. So I brainstormed and wrote down a list of every single characteristic I would want in a man. After that, I completely forgot all about this paper. It wasn't until I was cleaning out my wallet that I found it again and remembered writing this. If it worked for me, it will probably work for you too! Write down a list of all the traits you want in your true love, and stick it deep in your wallet. If it works for anybody else, I would love to know! So far, at least 2 women have told me this technique worked for them! I'm curious to know how many people will find this works for them too.