a few days late because i have been busy, but 12/13/22 marks..
Added 2022-12-16 17:37:31 +0000 UTCa few days late because i have been busy, but 12/13/22 marks ONE YEAR of being OUT as a non-binary person. i have unlearned so much this year about what i thought was correct, but have also learned so much about myself along the way. i still don’t correct everyone about my pronouns (especially in sex work) and that’s really weighed on my mental health, but i am going to try to be better about that going forward. being newly open as non-binary i constantly just feel like i am taking up space and attention…i have never felt like more of a burden than when i have to say “oh i actually use they/them pronouns” but basic respect is a human right and i need to be kinder to myself because i deserve that. i am still deciding on things for myself like surgeries, aesthetics, testosterone…and that’s okay! Rome wasn’t built in a day like they say and i don’t think i will figure out my gender 100% in just a year. but also, gender as i am learning, at least for me, is such a fluid thing. i have masc days, femme days, and lots of in between androgyny days. it’s silly little things that give me gender euphoria too. i was on a journey to grow my hair out most of this year; and just chopped it off again last week and feel SO MUCH BETTER not about my looks but my gender and how people perceive me. my bottom dysphoria is still all over the place and that’ll get better with time. being trans is a rollercoaster of a life experience but being trans is beautiful. i am going into this next year of being out in a more accepting way of being trans. some people think non-binary people don’t belong in that trans category and that’s just wild to me. i won’t let anyone invalidate anyone else’s ‘transness’ including my own. just let people live authentically. let people do what makes them feel good. friendly reminders: •my pronouns are they/them and if you’re STILL not getting that right, check yourself. •i AM NOT and will never be a girl/lady/woman so do not label me that ways. •i am ONE voice in the community, not THEE voice. listen to all trans people. •non-binary doesn’t equal androgyny. you can be masc or femme! 🏳️⚧️happy to be me!! excited to see where i am on this self exploration next year!🏳️⚧️
