It’s been a weird week. Between disappointing news about the house we were planning on moving into as soon as next week and having to move in two weeks no matter what, to one of our kids not being allowed at school for a week because she has a cold, amongst other things as we prepare for a big transition…oof, it’s been stressful!
Our intimate times have looked less like wild-energy fucking and squirting messes, and more like tender touches and getting our nervous systems back in a state of calm and pleasure. It’s a daily practice.
This is probably the most challenging season we’ve had since the years that Ryan struggled with depression and disability, or when he was deployed before that. Through the uncertainty and stress of not knowing where we’ll be living in just two weeks, we’re using every tool in our “toolbox” to work through the emotional rollercoasters and communicating our personal needs.
We can hardly WAIT to get settled into our new place—wherever that ends up being—and capture more moments in fresh, juicy content. Tell us, how has January been for you so far?
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Spontaneous desire at the beginning of a relationship is fun and hot…but how about that fiery, passionate CULTIVATED desire? ❤️🔥
If you wait around for the former to magically show up again, you may be waiting around for a VERY long time.
Honestly, that day may never come. Why? Because often, in long term relationships, desire is less spontaneous and more RESPONSIVE.
This is great news, because it means you don’t have to sit back and wait for sex and erotic play to not only feel fun again, but be the hottest AND most connected it’s ever been.
While you may be here on our page to get a glimpse into what cultivated desire looks like in our sex life, we also want you to know that it is possible to level up your erotic life & pleasure. If that’s something you want, we got you.
So let’s get into the juicy stuff, shall we? I mean, besides the *obvious* juiciness going on in this brief clip.💦 For Couples: Dive in with the 25 Days of Play, where you get 25 erotic play challenges to explore with your Lover.
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Kings: drive your Queen wild in the best way and transform your relationship, even if she’s overwhelmed with mom life, work, or life stresses, with Ryan’s Blueprint and Wildly Magnetic course.
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Questions about any of the above? Let us know! Here’s to a pleasure and passion-filled life, Wild Ones.💋
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When the world is spinning, slip inside me, and let’s stop time together…❤️🔥💦
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“Our Achilles’ heel in relationships is our inability to handle criticism without becoming defensive. It breaks us, our egos, and eventually, intimacy.
When we don’t hear others or feel unheard ourselves, it wears down the relationship. It breaks our spirit. We experience a sense of unimportance.
We lose ourselves in our pain and our truth becomes diluted with a need to satisfy the needs of others, or become hyper protective of ourselves.
Listening to listen as opposed to listening to defend, protect, or even respond allows us to hear the needs of others without jumping to defense.
This critique of another or the need to defend separates us, and dismisses and deflates others. People will either retract and become passive or attach and become aggressive. Either way, it is a lose-lose scenario.”
-Stefanos Sifandos
And what more tender conversation to broach than those about sex and personal desires? Since what’s happening in the bedroom is a mirror into the relationship itself, it can be scary and vulnerable to talk about. The key is to keep our hearts open—walls down—without abandoning our desire.
To help you initiate these conversations with more connection and ease, visit the link below for our new FREE Erotic Communication Guide. In the days that follow, you’ll also receive key tips on exploring erotic play, deepening emotional intimacy, and navigating sexual frustrations. See you there, Wild Ones!
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Building anticipation is wildly underrated and under-practiced.
It’s the sweet seduction that truly makes it all so thrilling.
The titillating tease…with a word, a touch, a breath. The deliciously drawn-out moments between thrusts. The quiet gasps, the primal moans. When you take what’s been done countless times before, and make it your own.
Because THIS moment is unlike any other we’ve known.
Despite our assumptions and the stories our minds replay, don’t let those stop you for newfound pleasures today.
Oops—did this turn into a poem for a sec? Writing about electrifying sex has that affect on me.😅 The truth is this, when you show up to sex with the attitude of “same old, same old,” odds are you WILL continue experiencing more of the same.
If, however…you approach each intimate encounter (which is absolutely not limited to when you’re physically engaging in sex!) with playfulness and curiosity, you open up 🎶 a whole new world 🎶 each time. A world where you can discover the expansive, transformative, and healing power of sex.
Not to mention…so much more pleasure and way more fulfilling orgasms.
Ready to have more fun in the bedroom with your Lover? Check out the 25 Days of Play at 25daysofplay.com. Here’s to reclaiming your pleasure and FUN in 2022, Wild Ones!💋
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“Contrary to popular belief, a long-term relationship is not meant to become boring. In fact, the longer you are together, the deeper the intimacy, passion, trust, and safety could be.
The harsh idea is that the idea that relationships become boring after a while is nothing but an excuse as we fall back into our old patterns, our heart closes when tension arises, and we do not consciously practice deepening intimacy, trust, and safety.
The only reason this is seen as “normal” it’s because we have excepted it at a collective level. We like to believe that it is true, as this way we can avoid facing ourselves and taking responsibility.
In truth, there is unimaginable depth and intimacy awaiting you if you open your heart and mind to the idea that it is actually possible to not only sustain deep love and passion for one another, but to actively deepen it.”
-@lorinkrenn
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The Golden Rule doesn’t quite work in the bedroom, OR in relationships. While well-intentioned for showing kindness and love to each other, there are a couple key pieces missing.
First, there’s the unspoken bit about expectations. “You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours!” may seem fair and logical, but approaching relationships and lovemaking with this mentality creates a lackluster energy that leaves both people wanting. Remember, too, that it’s totally normal and human for one partner to have higher needs of receiving one day over the other.
Another gap in the Golden Rule is the losing game of assumptions. For me to think that Ryan WANTS to have done to him what *I* want done to me is quite the assumption. Hint: he doesn’t! Let’s take this deeper, into the kinkosphere.
One of the biggest roadblocks and hang-ups we had in the bedroom for YEARS was this belief that we had to be into the same things. But we often aren’t. We have different specific kinks, desires, & curiosities. They don’t always magically sync up; we find or create ways to explore them together.
How?
Through honest communication, heartfelt conversation, and open-minded negotiation. This allows for less resentment, miscommunication, and disappointment, and more passion, connection, and full-body pleasure. GAME CHANGER.
So how about instead of following the Golden Rule, we approach each other with…let’s call it, the True Pleasure Rule.
❤️🔥Be radically honest with yourself about what you want
❤️🔥Make clear, courageous, vulnerable, loving, requests
❤️🔥Establish boundaries for play and exploration (these are fluid, not fixed; revisit often!)
❤️🔥Only give when your are genuinely open to give, and if you aren’t, take a closer look into why
❤️🔥Negotiate, negotiate, negotiate
❤️🔥When uncomfortable feels emerge, learn how to co-regulate and self-regulate
More pleasure and REAL connection guaranteed!😉
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My Love, welcome to our yoniverse.
Where the whole of who you are is welcome. Where pain is alchemized to power. Where delicious pleasure flows abundantly. Where the heaviness of the day can float away, with each soft moan and guttural groan.
THIS…this is our greatest healing space. The place to be seen. Known. Heard. Held. The place of greatest surrender and deepest remembrance.
Both wildly present, hearts in sync drumming…each time I can sincerely say: thank you for coming.
Wishing you a powerful, pleasurable new week, Wild Ones.❤️🔥
Receiving.
Something we all crave, yet often struggle with. Why?
Maybe because we’ve learned it’s more blessed (ie, more “right”) to give than to receive.
Maybe because we live in a world that values painful, arduous work and martyrdom more than play and pleasure.
Maybe because we’re not willing to surrender the imaginary reigns, ie, the illusion of control in our lives.
Maybe…because deep down, we don’t feel we’re worthy to receive.
Does this sound familiar?
Now, I ask you to consider how each of these scenarios has shown up in your sex life. Really. GO THERE.
Personally, nothing has created as much suffering in my own marriage & sex life as this. It’s not that I didn’t TRY to receive; I simply couldn’t. My history and harmful beliefs about who I “should” be as a woman, lover, mother, and human made it impossible.
No matter how much Ryan GAVE throughout our first decade of marriage, it wasn’t enough. Not because I was insatiable (I’d yet to tap into my deep well of sexual energy), but because I didn’t know how to explore the disowned desires of my heart and sexuality.
It was the perfect breeding ground for resentment, disconnection, and contempt. He’d give, with little in return. I’d give, with a subconscious intention to manipulate him to give me more. On and on the cycle continued.
UNTIL WE DECIDED TO BREAK THE CYCLE.
It wasn’t even both of us doing “the work” at the same time. For the first several years, usually one of us was more committed to the process than the other at different times. There was no perfect timing, no super secret formula. Simply two people learning how to work through their traumas, recalibrate their nervous systems, and become intimately familiar with their sexual shadows.
That changed the whole fucking game.❤️🔥❤️🔥
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Happy new year, Wild Ones! 🥳🎉 How are you celebrating tonight/this weekend? Wishing you a pleasurable start to the new year!
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And in that moment, suddenly, all that exists is ecstasy.
No worries. No pain. No problems. Just pleasure—Oneness with pure consciousness…sweet, sweet release.
I crave your pulsating juiciness, your throbbing desire, your full surrender, your trust as you free-fall into pure bliss. Ah! It’s heaven on earth, tasting the sweet nectar of the gods.
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“Even when you get the partner of your dreams, you’ll still be longing.
It’s the epitome of the feminine. She is a well of longing. A never-ending infinity sign of yearning.
The answer is to create art. And the best art comes from longing because it is one of those gut-wrenching emotions that brings you closer to god.
No amount of “filling” can truly soothe the longing that arises from the spring of your womb.
You may still attempt to soothe it, with chocolate and shopping and dates and beautifying your body…
These things are all, in fact, delicious.
But the real answer is to CREATE from your longing, not to fill or hush the longing.
It’s from your longing that something new emerges — like Venus rising out of the water or a Phoenix from the flames. Painful longing is like painful ch!ld birthing. Except the ch!ld is art. Your art, however you define it.
Know that your practice of 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙢𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 from your longing is your practice…forever. It’s not a practice you do until you find “him.” It’s a practice of being relational.
You’re not actually longing for “the one.” You’re longing to be reunited with god — your greatest, and first, lover.
This is why I’m a firm believer that jealousy is not always rooted in insecurity…
Sometimes it is…
But sometimes it’s about longing.
Longing to feel safe, to feel chosen, to feel claimed, to feel obliterated by ONE person’s desire so deeply that they don’t have room for anything or anyone else. You want to feel someone choose you to the point that you both forget yourselves.”
Words from Madelynn Moon that resonated deeply this morning. We hope this final week of 2021 has been exactly what you needed, Wild Ones.
Mmm…feel that? The energy is beginning to shift. But before rushing to strategize, plan out the year, set intentions, and create exciting goals, what if we made a different kind of list first?
I call it the “Turn Me On” list.
Just like it sounds, reflect on what turned you on this year. Not *just* in bed, either. After all, our turn-on in bed is a reflection of our turn-on in life!
So, Wild Ones…what made you come alive, awakened your passion, and brightened your spark? What helped you remember who you are, melt into the pleasure, and rediscover the joy of play? What made simply BEING you more pleasurable?
Here are a few of mine…
Dancing
Writing
Spending time by the sea
Daily self-pleasure
Kinky play
New experiences, in and out of the bedroom
Creating erotic content with Ryan
Meeting other inspired, turned-on people
Prioritize your turn-on, and the rest will flow with so much more ease…even the heavier, painful parts. That’s the beauty of practicing returning to your essence of well-being and bliss, again and again—your capacity for life itself grows.
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The pleasure felt in our bodies…through physical stimulation, through touch, through sex, through orgasm…is but a glimpse of the bliss our infinite beings are capable of experiencing.
Like a droplet of honey, or a sprinkle of water from the deepest of wells.
While we’re in these finite forms, taste and drink with me, Love…til our human vessels have had their fill.
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When the worries of tomorrow and the stresses of today sing out to us like eerie Sirens in the distance, let us draw each other closer.
Let us remain grounded in the now.
Let us share our energy in life-giving, healing ways.
Let us remind each other who the fuck we really are—of our power, our magic, and our love.
Through the chaos and the calm…thank you, My Love…for being on this weird, messy, beautiful human experience with me. ❤️🔥
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My Love, come with me…
Whisper in my ear your darkest, most twisted fantasies and your deepest, purest desires.
Leave the beauty marks of your primal passion on my body.
Make my pussy swell and drip with longing.
Play with me.
Care for me.
Embrace me.
Love me.
Invite me.
Tease me.
Touch me.
Fuck me.
And when you’re done…lie back, we’ve only just begun.
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When you don’t have the capacity for each other’s “too much”ness…
Congratulations: you’re human!
We all have our limits, and they’re different from day to day (hell, even moment to moment).
Recognize them. Honor them. Don’t try to steamroll them. Allow them to expose the pain beneath the surface.
Only when we address the root pain that’s wreaking havoc on the here & now can we make genuine, heartfelt requests and create healthy boundaries of our own…instead of resenting our partner for making requests, setting boundaries, and coming across as cold-hearted assholes.
Of course, there’s a way to lovingly yet firmly communicate boundaries and needs, but sometimes, no matter how kindly we try to share them, they land…well, harshly.
But the truth is, whenever Ryan’s boundaries and self-care feel like rejection or abandonment, it’s MY opportunity to examine my inner ch!ld’s unmet needs and attachment wounds.
My triggers are never about anyone else but me. Ever.
They’re my invitations to notice my neediness and sit with it, without rushing to the first place I can have those needs met. It’s fucking uncomfortable, I’ll tell you that. But in that space, I’ve discovered countless times…it’s BEYOND the acceptance, permission, and love I craved from my father as a ch!ld and I projected onto Ryan as an adult. What I’m really longing for is my own acceptance. My own permission to be too much. My own love…from adult “me” to the little ch!ld “me.”
You see, our needs are not bad or wrong. They point us back to a remembrance of our wholeness. They remind us that YES, we get to take up space, use our voices, and share our hearts.
And that is an indescribably beautiful thing.
So despite how it may feel in the moment, your neediness is not the bad guy. It is your gift. Let it be heard, seen, and embraced…and in doing so, you make it possible to access the next powerful level of passion and aliveness.
Within yourself AND with another.❤️🔥💥
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After an intense emotional week for both of us as we continue to wait to hear something back about this new house, and me (Luci) feeling like my body has been fighting off a cold, a long couples massage and some delicious hot pho at our favorite restaurant was the perfect way to celebrate our anniversary this year.
Neither of us were feeling up for any wild, primal sex last night. Instead, we showed up to our play room present with each other and the energy we felt between us. I felt more energized than I’d felt all week, excited to invite Ryan to surrender and release control. Playful impact play opened up space for emotional releases (as we’ll call them, “eye-gasms”)…followed by juicy physical release.
Here’s a clip of one of my favorite moments, as the scene was coming to an end.❤️🔥 For an additional clip from earlier in our play, tip $8 on this post.
Wishing you a pleasurable weekend, Wild Ones!
15 yrs. What a fucking ride. MYGOD, we were such babies, with no clue what hell and glory we’d experience together.
Choosing each other, again and again, has powerfully shaped the man and woman we are today.
You’ve challenged the stories I’ve had about why I can’t be/do/have what my heart desires. I’ve challenged the narratives you’ve had binding your worthiness to your suffering.
You’ve called me out on my bullshit. I’ve called you out on your ego.
You’ve invited me to show my true feelings. I’ve invited you to soften into your pleasure.
We’ve both fallen and gotten back up countless times—for ourselves, for each other, and for us.
Your courage and commitment continue to inspire the Goddess within me to rise and show up powerfully, every day. Even—or ESPECIALLY—when my body is tired and my mind is full of worries.
You remind me who the fuck I am.
The journey has been messy. Healing is messy. Calling back the disowned pieces of us that kept activating our wounded inner children…yeah, that shit was unbelievably messy. Especially the first few years of “waking up.”
So here’s to the journey.
To every painful trigger. To every yummy drop of pleasure. To every shattering breakdown. To every activating breakthrough. And to many more adventures and discoveries. In oh so many ways…we’ve only just begun.
Happy anniversary, my Wild King. 🐆❤️🔥 🐆
“Sex is an energy exchange; it’s the universe combining back into itself. With every fold in the fabric of space-time, a ripple of pleasure is created and felt in every corner of the cosmos. Tasting and fucking and devouring each other births intimacy on a spiritual and cellular level.”
-noopface
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I crave your leadership. Your strength. Your intensity. Your wildness. Your cosmic cock energy.
The thirsty feminine within me wants to completely surrender to the hungry masculine within you.
So give it all to me…my Love, my King.
‘Tis the season…
For holiday bustle & busyness, kids’ rehearsals and recitals, holiday events, school celebrations, birthdays, big transitions…
‘Tis also the season for creative exploration, especially as we experience such a beautiful range of energetic & emotional highs and lows. What will our next play session entail? Tip $10 on this post, and we’ll send you a some video of our next sexy encounter. 💋
Wishing you a beautiful start to this new week, Wild Ones.
Penetrate her with your energy. Melt her heart with your touch. Invite her pleasure to flow. Feel her desire swell and bubble over…and then do it all over again. 🤤
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“OK, now let’s have you guys stand over here and just begin to dance to the music,” the photographer, Alan, said.
It somehow turned into this….😅🤩 A series of energy orgasms and emotional releases. Grateful Alan captured the essence of this moment so beautifully, as this is the stuff that can’t exactly be planned in advance. It happens in that deeply surrendered state, when both our hearts are open and we’re attuned to the energy that’s present.
So while it’s not the typical sexy scene, these are sacred, soul-connecting moments that continue to blow our fucking minds about what we think of as “sex.”
Stay tuned for tomorrow’s juicy video DM, where we’ll be sharing a more explicit behind-the-scenes clip with a touch of energy work between thrusts. 🔥 💦
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That feeling of being in loving, capable hands…🤩
In the midst of so many changes this season—moving, possibly spending time overseas, figuring out what to do with all our stuff and the kids’ schooling—no matter where we go or what we do…it’s you and me, Lover.
Weathering the storms, coming through stronger. Expanding our capacity for love and for pleasure, even in the middle of what would otherwise feel like total chaos and confusion. This foundation has been built on solid ground, and on it, we’ve created a playground…a space of renewal space…a home.
Now, my Love, and every day…let’s play.
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